There is a calm in being alone. I know, it may seem illogical that I would be saying that but there is. The trick is in finding it, that place of calmness.
Like so much in life, I think the key to happiness is where you place your attention. Choosing where you focus is not as easy as it sounds as it turns out. It can be so easy to be distracted then consumed then obsessed by the negative, but what does that get you?
I've known lots of people who are "glass half empty" folks, we all have. They are the ones who are "just ok" on perfect spring days. They are the ones who walk past, in a state of total self-consumed oblivion, the amazing musician that blesses a subway with their gift. They are the ones who brood, day after day, week after week, year after year, about those that "done them wrong."
So as I continue to spend time alone, I am focusing on the gift of solitude. Instead of focusing one more minute on anyone from my past who chose me second, who placed me low on this list of priorities we all have, I am focusing on those who love me. On those who choose me and value me as much as I choose and value them. I choose to be thankful and aware of the good in my life and take this time to appreciate it. And the gift that comes with that is the warmth that surrounds me.
It feels like a corner has been turned.
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Saturday, December 22, 2012
Thursday, November 29, 2012
With love
Life has ways of surprising you.
When you write like this you are writing alone. There is the possibility of having someone with you in a virtual reality but there is no promise of that. There is the possibility of support or criticism. Interest or apathy. But you never know. I think all you can do is write what you feel, put it to the virtual universe and see what comes back to you.
Today, I received support. Love. Kindness.
Several years ago I got my first (and to this point, my only) tattoo. It's on my lower back (which I am sad to hear is now referred to as a 'tramp stamp'... I can't tell you how disappointing that is) and it's the Chinese symbol for strength. I got that symbol in that place for this reason; we all have strength. It's not always where you can see it but it's there. It's got your back. And it's there when you need it.
My beautiful gift today was that along with the strength I have come to rely upon from myself, I am also blessed to have the support of friends who I also cannot see but are as real and true as the ink on my back. You are my strength too.
I thank each and every one of you. And I will most certainly talk to you soon. And often.
We have a lot in common as it turns out.
With love.
When you write like this you are writing alone. There is the possibility of having someone with you in a virtual reality but there is no promise of that. There is the possibility of support or criticism. Interest or apathy. But you never know. I think all you can do is write what you feel, put it to the virtual universe and see what comes back to you.
Today, I received support. Love. Kindness.
Several years ago I got my first (and to this point, my only) tattoo. It's on my lower back (which I am sad to hear is now referred to as a 'tramp stamp'... I can't tell you how disappointing that is) and it's the Chinese symbol for strength. I got that symbol in that place for this reason; we all have strength. It's not always where you can see it but it's there. It's got your back. And it's there when you need it.
My beautiful gift today was that along with the strength I have come to rely upon from myself, I am also blessed to have the support of friends who I also cannot see but are as real and true as the ink on my back. You are my strength too.
I thank each and every one of you. And I will most certainly talk to you soon. And often.
We have a lot in common as it turns out.
With love.
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